On Keeping It Easy
As I read the title of this post to myself an image of a group of young street kids popped into my head with the phrase “keep it eee zzeee bro”.
Now one of the things I’ve noticed recently with the work of some remarkable people is their ability to keep things really easy.
A good friend of mine is a sales person for a large international firm and when I speak to him about the way in which he makes sales, it’s very different from what I hear from a lot of other people who do similar jobs.
This guy is pretty damn good at what he does and one of the key patterns I’ve noticed in the way he works is that he keeps things really easy for himself and his clients. He talks to his clients like they’re human beings, he laughs with them, eats with them, drinks with them and makes their time together the most fun he possibly can.
I remember reading something by Richard Bandler where he says something along the lines of “If the guy driving the taxi doesn’t understand what you’re saying, you’re making it too complicated”.
This got me thinking about the way in which we interact with other people and also the way in which we interact with ourselves. I’ve listened to a lot of people tell me about their problems and almost every time, the problem seems far far worse in their head than it really ought to be.
Having recently attended some fantastic courses run by Michael Neill, again I noticed this same pattern of ease and I started to ask myself, If this was as easy as it could be, and still the most fun it could possibly be, what would that be like?
You see when people start talk to me about NLP and they start telling me about how hard it is to learn language patterns and how hard it is to remember to look for accessing cues and how they tried to do this really complicated stuff and it just seemed way too tough, I know they’re not asking themselves the same questions.
When clients come to me and they tell me how tough their lives are and how I couldn’t possibly understand, they’re right, because inside each of us is the ability to take what it is we’re experiencing and to make a good decision. We can either choose to make things tough and hard and painful or we can look at things with a sense of determination, humour and ease. This is where I know inside myself that I’d rather be able to help people get to where they want to be than to understand how painful their lives are.
My game for you all today, should you choose to want to play it is the following:
As you go through the day and you experience different things there are going to be times when stuff seems tough. Now that’s not a sugestion, just an observation on my own life and if it’s not true for you then fantastic!
When you come across these things, stop and ask yourself…”How can I make this experience the most easy and fun thing I’ve had the pleasure of doing all day”. Now some of you may be thinking, yeah, sheesh, i’m really going to look forward to that meeting I have this afternoon… but the thing is, sometimes we have things we need to do in order to maintain the kinds of life we enjoy and when we come up against things and we go inside and do things that make us feel bad, we’re wasting the time we could be using feeling fantastic.
For those of you thinking “Well, if i make things in my life really easy then i’ll never end up doing the things that really need to be done” let me just say the following: Never in my experience of working with people, working in business and observing how people do things in the most amazing ways, have I ever come across anyone who’s amazing at what they do and also enjoying the life they want, who doesn’t motivate themselves by setting up desire and pointing it in the direction they want to go in.
I’d really love to hear some feedback on how different and easy you find things by making them as easy and fun as possible.
Love, Jamie
